Social Ineptitude

Relatively recently I was called in to a meeting. I thought it was an informative meeting but it was really a "you need to improve" meeting.

This is what my problem is. When I there is a problem I find the solution and state my solution and am really to assertive when I do so. This is a problem because it is not a professional disposition? Though, it is true. Sort of. If I don't like the person I really am kinda mean. I know I should not be but sometimes I just can't help it, well I can but I choose not to.

So I have to change, at least for this semester. I know it is why I do not have friends, but I don't really want friends.

1. I need to slow down. This takes so much work. I have to plan at least 5 min. extra because I know I will see someone I know and I have to stop and say a kind word. I never EVER did this before, but I need to work on not being so assertive, so there it is. I also have to slow down my thought process. Well not really slow down my thought process but to pause and let the other person of the conversation catch up before I go on again.

2. I have to let other people come to my conclusion. "So here is the problem, what do you think?" "well, what about this?" " I was thinking on similar lines, but what about this?" (once they come to my idea) "You know that just might work, I am so glad that you came up with that!"

But the problem with this is that It is flat out lying. I am not this sort of person at all, and when you get someone to your conclusion you are manipulating them. I figure most of being social competent is to play the political game and to be fake. Yes Fake.

So the Goal: To Be Fake.
At least this is how I see it.

So now I walk around with a dumb smile so my face doesn't show the thoughts going on inside.